Day 12 – Choosing What to Carry

08 Aug 2025

Some words are heavy. They carry the weight of old memories, old patterns, and the ache of realizing that not everyone sees relationships as sacred spaces. Sometimes they see them as tools — something to adjust, display, or rearrange when it fits their own needs.

I heard one of those sentences today. It wasn’t cruel on the surface, but the intent behind it was clear. And in that moment, I felt the familiar pull — the temptation to let it stir anger, frustration, and the exhaustion of déjà vu.

But here’s the truth: not every word spoken to you is meant for you to keep. Some words are better left exactly where they fall. I chose to leave those words behind today. Not slamming the door, not starting a war — simply refusing to give them a place in my heart.

And then, the day shifted.
I ended it with one of the few men I know I can always rely on — my son. His beautiful wife, the daughter I never had, filled the kitchen with warmth as she cooked a delicious dinner. Meanwhile, my son and I tackled the pool equipment at the New Mexico house — a.k.a. the “Fortress.” What was supposed to be a simple job turned into hours of patience-testing problem solving, ending with me absolutely covered in stagnant skimmer and drain water. My son found this hilarious. I found it grounding.

Because sometimes, life’s balance is restored not by the big victories, but by the small, everyday moments — the laughter, the teamwork, and the people who remind you why you keep showing up for the fight.

“At the end of the day, let there be no excuses, no explanations, no regrets.” – Steve Maraboli

Daily Reflection Prompt:
When was the last time you chose not to hold onto someone’s words? What or who helped you feel grounded again afterward?

🎵 Spotify Pairing: “Keep Your Head Up” – Ben Howardhttps://open.spotify.com/search/%20%22Keep%20Your%20Head%20Up%22%20by%20Ben%20Howard

Closing Thought:
Today reminded me that I get to decide what I carry forward — and what I leave behind. And I will always carry the moments that keep my heart steady.

—Until tomorrow,

Stacey